I must learn a lot!

Nobody wins every time. That's a fact of life. But what do we do with the losses? Get pissed and quit? Get angry and try harder? Blame someone else? What if our first thought after not winning at something wasn't critical?

Shift your perspective. Next time something doesn't go your way, make your first thought be the question, "what did I learn that can help me do better next time".

You might be surprised how it changes things.